6 Things Every Woman Wants From Her Husband / Boyfriend / Partner

• Posted on 13th April 2014
• in Advice, The Relationships, Written Ink
• by Erica

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Next to my two sons, my boyfriend, Gene, is my most favorite person in the world.  Not only is he my boyfriend, but he is my partner, my best friend, my lover and an all around great guy.  Sometimes I feel bad for the women who came before me, because they truly missed out on what a wonderful person he truly is.   As I am writing this in my kitchen, I’m watching him sit on the floor and play with our son who’s almost 6 months old and I can’t help but think how lucky I am.

Every woman should feel this way about her husband, fiancé, boyfriend, partner, mate, significant other (or any other label you wish to insert here). I know the reasons why I feel this way, and this blog is meant to highlight the reasons why I am so thankful that Gene is my boyfriend (maybe one day husband too)

Hopefully, you’ll take away from this his example and it can inspire, encourage and maybe spark conversation with your partner.

My little family. Left: Gene, Myself and my son | Right: Gene with our son a few minutes after he was born

What I learned from my prior relationships:

How a man treats / talks about his mom, is how he will treat you.  In turn, how he treats you as a wife / girlfriend / partner will teach your sons how to treat women and your daughters what they should expect from men.
I couldn’t ask for a better role model in Gene.

This is not a comprehensive list (I’m sure!) and I am not a marriage expert, but I believe these are 6 things every woman desires from her husband, boyfriend or partner. (I know I do)

Consistent Communication

My boyfriend is a sports addict; there isn’t a night that goes by that a game isn’t on in this house.  Nonetheless, he’s always willing to turn off ESPN (or whatever sports network is on) or put down his iPad to talk to me.  We make it a point to have dinner together every night, together as a family and talk.  But it’s not just during sports or dinner, we talk all the time and I know that I can discuss anything with him and he will always be there to listen to me, give me advice or hear me vent.   I know I can count on him to be there for me because we are always communicating. Open communication is a cornerstone for trust and his actions show that our relationship is a higher priority than sports, electronics or any other possible distraction at the time.

Love, Affection, Passion and Pursuit 

In many relationships, after the honeymoon period expires, many couples stop giving the best of themselves - the romance begins to fade.  We both continually work at the pursuit, even after years of dating having a child and raising my son (his step child so to speak).  We make time for ourselves together as a couple.  He brings me chocolates, plays me songs, takes me out to dinner.  We still steal kisses, give affectionate love pinches, text sexy messages and always kiss goodnight.  Don’t forget to keep “dating” your partner.  He gives me the best of himself everyday, not just on anniversaries or birthdays and I love him for that.

He Encourages Me, Challenges Me & Respects Me

He is my biggest supporter, my loudest cheerleader and pushes me to be my best.  He encourages me to pursue my passions (writing, blogging, my businesses, my painting) and picks me up when I am feeling down.   He roots for me, he supports me, helps me whatever ways he can and he challenges me to be the very best person I can be. No matter what, I can rely on him for support.  He believes in me - and his words and actions show how much he respects me.

He Accepts Me For Who I Am

I’m a bit quirky.  I’m a bit nerdy.  I’m a klutz. I can’t dance. I can be an introvert around crowds of people. I can become immersed in my work and tune out the world.  I can get lost for hours writing.  I can be cranky, moody, irritable - in other words, I’m not perfect.  But he loves me with all my imperfections and loves me for me.  He doesn’t look to change me, in fact, I think he wouldn’t want me any other way.  And I wouldn’t want him to be anyone else either.

He is My Protector & Provider 

He wipes away my tears, he would protect me if I fall.  He’s my rock that I lean on and he’s the comforting arms that wrap around me.  He makes me feel safe, secure, loved and protected - emotionally, physically and financially.  I know that I can count on him no matter what the circumstances may be.  I know he has the courage to fight for me and our family if needed - and I know he would do whatever it takes to make sure we were provided for.  I see it everyday as he goes into work, comes home and makes sure he spends time with both me and our family.

He Knows Time, Family and Faith Are Important 

He understands that time is all too valuable of an asset and invests as much time as he can to both me, our family and our extended families.  He makes sure that he is present in the moment when he is with me, giving me his full attention.  He makes time for our family by playing with our son when he comes home from work or helping my son with his homework or practicing sports with him.  He makes sure that time is spent with our families (his side and my side) and that our children spend time with our extended family.  He values the time we share not only as a couple, but as a family unit.   I also know that he has faith in a higher power that will guide us together on the right path.

I know that every relationship is different, and every person is different but I feel that almost all relationships could benefit from these same points: Communication, Love, Affection, Passion, Pursuit, Encouragement, Challenges, Respect, Acceptance, Protection, Security, Time, Family (and Faith!).    Ok maybe it wasn’t just 6 things every woman wants in her mate - but these are the things I love about my boyfriend.

Tell me in the comments below, what do you want in your partner?  Have you experienced these awesome qualities in your spouse?

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